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From understanding to your own words.
Alongside learning about attachment, make space for what you notice in your own relationships. These optional prompts help you write observations, needs and possible next steps; they do not assign an attachment style.
Looking for the attachment style quiz? → Explore two dimensions and the style your answers may lean toward.
A pattern you want to understand
Reflect on a current situation
Notice what happened, what you needed and what you might choose next.
Read alongside it: What attachment research can tell you
A contact decision
Make a contact plan
Think through space, necessary contact or one conversation.
Read alongside it: Contact boundaries: choices and limits
A repeating thought
Put the thought on paper
Separate what happened from what you’re interpreting.
Read alongside it: Working with beliefs and interpretations
A moment to pause
Take a brief pause
Notice one ordinary thing, with no need to change how you feel.
Read alongside it: Body awareness: options and limits
Family, culture and values
Explore your own context
Consider the expectations you notice and what matters to you.
Read alongside it: Context and relationship expectations
Your words stay with you.
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