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16 questions · About 4 minutes · For adults
Find your attachment style.
Explore how you respond to closeness and uncertainty. Get a picture of your anxious and avoidant tendencies, the style they may lean toward, and one practical step to consider.
This is an informal learning quiz, not a diagnosis or a validated test. A result describes these answers, not who you will always be.
Keep one current or past romantic relationship in mind. Answer for a typical few weeks, using that same relationship throughout.
No email or account. Answers stay in this open page and are not saved or sent to us.
Your context matters.
Think beyond only your best or hardest day. No names or personal details are needed, and your answers may look different for another relationship.
Your partner’s behavior and your circumstances matter. Protecting yourself in an unsafe relationship is not a flaw to overcome. You can skip any question or stop.
Prefer to reflect without a score? →About these questions and scores
These 16 prompts were written for Attachment Shift. They are not a validated questionnaire, a shortened ECR-R or a clinical assessment. They cannot establish your attachment style or explain why a relationship feels a certain way.
Adult attachment research often describes two dimensions: anxiety about a partner’s availability and discomfort with closeness or depending on them. Our questions use those ideas for informal reflection.
Each answer is worth 1 to 5 in the order shown. Questions 7, 8, 11, 12, 15 and 16 describe ease with connection, so we reverse them (6 minus the answer). We average the rated answers separately for the eight anxiety and eight avoidance questions. “Not sure” is excluded. At least six rated answers per dimension are needed; this minimum is an editorial choice, not a tested reliability standard.
Below 2.75 is shown as lower; 2.75 through 3.25 as middle; above 3.25 as higher. These are our display bands, not research norms or diagnostic cutoffs. Middle scores receive no single style label. Other combinations are described as a leaning, never a fixed identity or a percentage of who you are.
For the research behind the dimensions and their limits, see Fraley’s ECR-R explanation (opens a new tab) and research on relationship-specific attachment (opens a new tab). Those instruments are different from this quiz. No author endorsement is implied.